I am so sleepy… I guess my bed felt so good to me… I couldn’t bear to leave it. I was right in the middle of that sleep where it feels like you could lay there for days. I felt like slapping my alarm clock like it stole something from me… but here I am – exhausted. I’m rambling – so let me get to the point of today’s blog. The other day, I was entrenched in a deep conversation with a friend of mine, SpottieOttieDopalicious.
I don't wanna know
If you're playin' me, keep it on the low
Cause my heart can't take it anymore
And if you’re creepin’, please don't let it show
Oh baby, I don't wanna know
- Mario Winans
Think about it – do you want to one day be blind-sided by an admission of infidelity? Yes, I f----d her… I f----d her… is that you want to hear, yes, I f----d her…but I make love to you… I’ve heard stories of people getting caught red-handed, leaving their beaus with the “it wasn’t me” story. Is it that hard out here for a pimp? People, you are more than capable of landing someone that is focused on you, not you, me and her.
I don’t care she has some bomb-azz p***y or if he can lay pipe like a plumber… it’s not worth it if they are sharing their services with other consumers. Tell me… I want to know – everything. Educate me… hell, let me know and then let me go… so that I can roll in piece. Close your nose and open up your eyes and ears… I promise you’ll benefit in the long run… If u ever have to question your relationship or your partner`s loyalty, then something just ain’t right. Follow your instinct. Your intuition will guide you. There is a reason why you`re feeling like this. Get out before the funk hits the fan and you’re a part of Trapped in the Closet, Pt. 74: Hot Grits and Bacon Grease. Let me know if you're feelin' me or if I'm way off-base.
Gotta run and pack – making a road trip to holla at
- Jorge
Sadly, this reminds me of one of my boyz. He gets "open" over every female that takes him semi-seriously. Even females that he hasn't seen. No hope for the brotha, I swear.
ReplyDeleteThere are two types of people when it comes to getting cheated on. Those who wanna know, and those who want to stay blissfully ignorant (more people than you think). I definitely have to be in the know. I agree completely. Let me know, and let me go. I know some people think, "If you don't know, then it doesn't matter." But it matters to me.
I've never been one to share. ;-P
You show me a fool in love, and I'll show you a fool.
ReplyDeleteTurning the other cheek very rarely turns out well....
Hell yeah I would want to know so I could bust you up side your head.I have a very big ego when it comes to relationships-truthfully I believe in the Mary J. song, "i can love you".That pertains to me;nobody can do it better than me and so if you choose to find this out the hard way by having to test the waters, I want to know so I can kick you to the curb for being so stupid. Any relationship can't be that good for you not to want to know when you're being played. That dude just had very low self esteem. Everyone deserves to be told the truth and deserves someone who wants to be with them and only them.No one should have to be played.
ReplyDeleteDon't tell me because if you do, there will definitely be some drama occurring....
ReplyDeleteI'd be like Monica in that Knock, Knock video outside in a patrol car, with a deranged look like I wish a nigga would creep...
i don't think i'd want to know either, it would be another admission that i may not be good enough for someone... if i was good enough, the other person wouldn't have cheated...
ReplyDeletedamned if u do, damned if u don't
Okay, I know this isn't going to go over well, especially after posting my blog "Hussy or Housewife?! (PS..I didn't do it. I decided that I didn't need the friggin headache!)
ReplyDeleteNow, I was taught that if a man or a woman wants to cheat, they will. Unless they are extremely careless, they don't get caught.(I have seen this happen)
I think people make choices...they CHOOSE to ignore certain situations. Sometimes,you remain in denial because you truly want to believe in the person to whom you direct your affections. Other times, people tend to feel,"as long as he/she is taking care of home, who gives a shit?"
As for the comment about trusting your gut, I do believe that it will guide you, HOWEVER, people do have a tendency to convince themselves of whatever they believe even if nothing is going on. (i.e.,self esteem and insecurity issues. Thats another blog)
I personally feel people will cheat if it is what they want to do. They aren't going to have an attack of the "I must be good syndrome" right before the moment of penetration. If they want to hump someone if given the opportunity they will. No one is going to call their spouse and say, I am thinking of cheating, what do you think I should do? and I don't want to hear any talk about..them saying "all I need to do is hear my babys voice and I'll be okay. The fact is, when you are hungry and there is food in your face, you will eat!..my philosophy is simple...
1-DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO,(all the love and talk I give won't stop you if you want to experience someone else)
2- DON'T LEAVE ANYTHING FOR ME SEE THAT WILL PUT YOU IN A POSITION TO BE QUESTIONED, i.e.,PANITES OR CONDOMS
3- WASH THAT SHIT THOROUGHLY BEFORE RETURNIUNG HOME TO ME. IF YOU BRING ME BACK SOMETHING, I GOTTA CUT YO AZZ!!!
It's just my opinion...
I say let me know. I'll probably be pissed and hurt and all that stuff, but I won't automatically drop you or try to beat you up. If the situation seems like it can be worked out, then cool. If not, then you know the rest...
ReplyDeleteI agree that people shouldn't cheat but they do... something about gardening that other lawn - always trying to get that extra trim...
ReplyDeleteI feel as if you have urges like that, urges so strong you feel compelled to stray, you need to be straight up with your partner - discuss things.
If you feel the same way after the conversation, grab your trimmers and cut somethin'....
people are dumb. i hate to say it, but i have been blind by a guy before (more than once). no, i didn't think that they could be the one, but sometimes we are just too naive.
ReplyDeleteHowever, in this case, this guy is just plain dumb. There are way too many diseases and other things of the like out there for people not to be in the know. If they are in a committed relationship, especially at this point in our life, then they need to communicate and be serious. It is so time out for games. I know we all did it in school, but life out here is real, and this is the real world.
Bump that...I want to know! There is nothing worse than walking around thinking that you "have" a man and he out here bussing down other folks. I don't like being made a fool out of. What's the point of cheating and lying anyway? What purpose does it serve for grown folks? What ever happened to finding a boo and sticking with that person? What's so great about another woman when you have your own? I guess this is why I'm single....I have morals and values. Rats always win...good girls don't.
ReplyDeleteI BELIEVE PEOPLE WHO RATHER STAY IN THE DARK ABOUT THE FEDILTY OF THEIR SIGNIFICANT OTHER THAN KNOW THE TRUTH ARE INSECURE, SCARED INDIVIDUALS WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM WHO DON'T EVEN LOVE THEMSELVES. I HAVE SEEN IT TO MANY TIMES. OFTEN THIS INDIVIDUAL DON'T WANT TO ADMIT THE TRUTH (BECUASE DEEP DOWN THEY KNOW)BECAUSE THEY CAN'T HANDLE IT. AUTOMATICALLY THEY BLAME THEMSELVES... "WHAT DID I DO TO MAKE THEM LEAVE ME?" WHEN IN ACTUALLITY IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM. A CHEATER IS A SELFISH PERSON WHO ONLY HAS HIS OR HER FEELINGS IN MIND. THEY MAY BE LOOKING FOR A WAY OUT, BUT NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO JUST LEAVE. MAYBE THEY GREW UP IN AN ENVIRONMENT WHERE IT'S OK FOR DAD TO HAVE OTHER GIRLFRIENDS WHILE MOM IS AT HOME AND VICE VERSA. THERE ARE A VARIETY OF REASONS OF WHY PEOPLE CHEAT. WHATEVER THE CASE MAY BE, IT IS VITAL FOR THE CHEATEE KNOW THAT IT'S NOT THEIR FAULT. YOU ARE NO LESS THAN A PERSON IF YOU ARE CHEATED ON. JUST DON'T TAKE IT. IF YOU ARE JUST DATING AND MAY BE SERIOUS AND NOT MARRIED, MORE THAN LIKELY THAT PERSON IS NOT FOR YOU AND THANK GOD YOU DIDN'T MARRY IT. TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF TO ASSESS THE SITUATION. WHY ARE YOU WITH THIS PERSON? IS HE/SHE MARRIAGE MATERIAL? IS IT WORTH FIGHTING FOR? CAN YOU TRUST THIS PERSON AGAIN? IF WE BREAKUP, WILL I BE BROKEN? ONCE AGAIN, THESE ARE INWARD QUESTIONS YOU HAVE TO ASK YOURSELF. YOUR HAPPINESS SHOULDN'T DEPEND ON SOMEONE ELSE- EXCEPT GOD. OR RATHER, HAPPINESS IS AN EMOTION THAT CAN COME AND GO.. BUT YOUR PEACE AND JOY SHOULDN'T BE DEPENDANT ON SOMEONE ELSES ACTIONS. SURE, YOU WILL BE HURT AND SAD, BUT AS THE BIBLE SAYS JOY WILL COME IN THE MORNING.
ReplyDeleteSO WAKE UP!!!!! KNOW YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU WILL PUT UP WITH, BUT DON'T HIDE FROM THE TRUTH. DON'T SETTLE FOR ANYTHING. EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT AND DIGNITY, BUT YOU HAVE TO DEMAND IT AS WELL. PLUS, WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP DO YOU HAVE IF YOU HAVE TO PLAY DETECTIVE ALL THE TIME.. GO JOIN THE POLICE FORCE..