What’s up, everyone? I hope you all had a good weekend… my time had this theme; much ado about nothing. I went to a basketball game Saturday and saw my team lose a game they should have won (with some help from the referees…), read a book, wrote a little bit and then proceeded to warm my computer chair with my butt for the rest of the weekend (don’t laugh; some of it was work-related). During that time, I had about several hundred Black folks call me (or text me) to let me know that Three 6 Mafia won the Oscar… frankly, I don’t give a damn. 
Hell, I’m not getting any of the proceeds (and I refuse to cheer for someone named Juicy J or Crunchy Black). The defining moment was last year when Jamie Foxx won for Ray. It was the first time a Black person won without having to degrade themselves... but anyway, enough about that; I’m getting off-track...
While I was on the Internet, making love to my keyboard, I engaged in a conversation with a friend about relationships and our lack of success in them. I began to ponder the thought of trying to procure the “perfect” companion. That is almost impossible to find. So many people are trying to do the same thing… it’s like going shopping. Folks are trying to find that right fit for them, the thing makes everyone say “that is so you”.
Think about it. How many times have you walked into a store; looking for something specific, only to find something better? It’s like it was sitting there, waiting for you to pick it up. Have you ever had something and put it back, only to find out to it was gone when you came back to get it? You know, see something nice and try it on; possibly carry it around like it’s yours already. All of a sudden, you begin to talk yourself into believing it that it won't look right on you when you get it home and ultimately refrain from buying it. I’m very guilty of this (and I periodically kick myself for not taking care of that purchase when I had the opportunity).
Sometimes we do the same things in relationships. We tend to go after the unattainable – (you know, when you’re a 16 squeezing into a 6…) or the safe thing (this was 25% off) and try to force ourselves into a situations that we don’t belong in. You see it all the time… you’re quiet and reserved, she’s the “life of the party” extrovert. You are extra trendy, and he prefers white T’s, jogging pants and Timberlands. You are determined to get the most out of what you have without considering that there might be something else out there that is better for you. It’s cool to have arm candy but it’s nice to have the whole package as well. True beauty only lasts for so long.
Next time, when you’re out shopping… remember that if it’s available, there may be a reason behind that. Make sure you leave no hanger empty, no aisle uncombed and no tag checked out. It’s not an easy task to do this… but we all know it’s hard out here for a pimp.
That’s my time – until next time…
- Jorge
Hell, I’m not getting any of the proceeds (and I refuse to cheer for someone named Juicy J or Crunchy Black). The defining moment was last year when Jamie Foxx won for Ray. It was the first time a Black person won without having to degrade themselves... but anyway, enough about that; I’m getting off-track... While I was on the Internet, making love to my keyboard, I engaged in a conversation with a friend about relationships and our lack of success in them. I began to ponder the thought of trying to procure the “perfect” companion. That is almost impossible to find. So many people are trying to do the same thing… it’s like going shopping. Folks are trying to find that right fit for them, the thing makes everyone say “that is so you”.
Think about it. How many times have you walked into a store; looking for something specific, only to find something better? It’s like it was sitting there, waiting for you to pick it up. Have you ever had something and put it back, only to find out to it was gone when you came back to get it? You know, see something nice and try it on; possibly carry it around like it’s yours already. All of a sudden, you begin to talk yourself into believing it that it won't look right on you when you get it home and ultimately refrain from buying it. I’m very guilty of this (and I periodically kick myself for not taking care of that purchase when I had the opportunity).
Sometimes we do the same things in relationships. We tend to go after the unattainable – (you know, when you’re a 16 squeezing into a 6…) or the safe thing (this was 25% off) and try to force ourselves into a situations that we don’t belong in. You see it all the time… you’re quiet and reserved, she’s the “life of the party” extrovert. You are extra trendy, and he prefers white T’s, jogging pants and Timberlands. You are determined to get the most out of what you have without considering that there might be something else out there that is better for you. It’s cool to have arm candy but it’s nice to have the whole package as well. True beauty only lasts for so long.
Next time, when you’re out shopping… remember that if it’s available, there may be a reason behind that. Make sure you leave no hanger empty, no aisle uncombed and no tag checked out. It’s not an easy task to do this… but we all know it’s hard out here for a pimp.
That’s my time – until next time…
- Jorge
I agree that "if it’s available, there may be a reason behind that." You gotta remember that some of the "merchandise" may have already been purchased, found to be defective and then returned.
ReplyDeleteAlways be on the lookout for a faulty product.
Try it on. If it fits and you like it, wear it until you're tired of it. But I agree with Brit, don't buy it if it has a "hole" in it. Or if somebody spilled something on it. Or if you think it might fade in the wash.
ReplyDeleteYou have to make sure the milk hasn't gone bad as well... some people may look good on the outside, but are sour and spoiled on the inside. In the end, they will just make you sick...
ReplyDeletePerfect fit... hmm. Like that white tshirt from the gap that looks cute with my sexy boots or my comfy adidas. Dress it up or dress it down. Its classic.. funky and fun-depending on the mood. Or pefect fit like that super bad dress you only get to wear once. Dont you hate that.. you see it and you are so excited that you got it like...damn this is so hot. you broke the bank paying for it. you cant wear it but like once in a blue moon and you gotta take it to the cleaners and pay all that extra moneyto take care of it. I got a closet full of those. Im going for the comfy shirt. In a lifetime you only find maybe like 2 or 3. But sometimes you luck up on that special one that can stand the wear and tear. You might spill some kool-aid on it or you might get a little thick but it still fits. That is how I approach yall men now adays. I want to get as much wear out of yall as possible. And when Im lost and have no clue what to wear.. I know you will come through and match with anything and wont ever go out of style. hhahahah
ReplyDeletecan somebody help me find my Tshirt!
That was so moving ;-p
ReplyDeleteWhy are you hatin' on Three 6? If you'd seen what they were up against, you would've been pissed if they hadn't won!!! lol
ReplyDeleteI'm not hating on Three Six - just their names...
ReplyDeletePersonally, I like Three 6... I live in Tennessee and went to a HBCU - I'd be lost culturally without them...
I think you are rather bitter, possibly beyond assistance. I may not know much, but I can identify a hater, and I am thinking you might be one. But thats just a thought. Pay me no attention.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the last comment, I think someone hurt your feelings, and speaking of things or people being available, why aren't you in a relationship? Are you faulty goods? Or just a spoiled educated Black man?
ReplyDeleteAnonymous #1 --- why do you think I'm bitter? What am I hating on exactly? Identify that for me... better yet, identify yourself... I promise no one in this forum will bite you, unless of course that's your type of thing. Per your wishes, I won't pay you any attention any longer....
ReplyDeleteAnonymous #2 --- Just for co-signing with the nonsense that Anonymous #1 said, you should go stand out into rush hour traffic...
Thanks for commenting!
First I have to say, What up Orange Mound! Never in a million years would 3 young black men from the mound even think that they could go to the Oscars let alone be nominated and win. I know there is debate about the content of the music and does it represent black folks in a positve light. Well, what about Capote or Brokeback mountain? How positive is that? or not to mention TransAmerica! and these were supposedly the best films of the year. ( I'm so glad Crash won) but I digress. Don't hate on Triple 6. They come from humble beginnings and worked hard and grind to get where they are. So I ain't mad at them...
ReplyDeleteBut as far as finding the right person, I think first we need to know what we are looking for. You use the example of shopping. I know for me, I go to the mall most times just to see what's out there; Which is fine to shop around. However, if you are really looking for your soul mate don't you think you want to put the most thought into it before you take them into your heart. I think to many times we jump into relationships just seeing the fasade of that person (or to stay within the example, just noticing the newness of the item, the bling, bling) Not until you truly open up with a person with no guard up, does true exploration can begin. Plus, you have to know what you really want in your relationship. What will fly and what won't, etc. So before trying on every piece of clothing on the table. Inspect it. look at it. examine it. And know how much you willing to spend on this purchase. Becuase not all purchases have a return policy.
I have identified you as being bitter from the tone of several of your emails. It appears as though you have decided it is everyone else's fault that you are not in a relationship, not that there is the slightest possibilty you are a spoiled brat that has trouble relating to women in a serious manner. It would also be to your benefit that you understand why it is you are alone, and that maybe it has nothing to do with anyone being spoiled and rotten inside, but that you are still yet unhappy with the person that you are today. I know that you are not receptive to this, simply based on your reation. And my name is Ayanna, do you know me?
ReplyDeleteAnd the difference identification has made is what? None am I correct? Notice that when you do these blogs on a regular basis, unless it is not you writing them, you are giving the world a part of yourself and there are concurrent themes that run through your blogs, and among them is your need to pass blame for failed relationships, bad nights at the club, and everything else off on someone other than yourself. It also appears that anything that is not in the grain of what you think or want to see and hear is not correct, and to that end sir, you are a bitter unhappy young man, that would do well to take time get to know yourself and move it along.
ReplyDeleteWow, that was way harsh Tai (shout out to the Clueless fans! Oh, I was the only one that saw that movie?!)
ReplyDeleteUm, I can't speak for Jorge, but as another blogger I know that sometimes you tell your stories from one point of view just to make them more entertaining. It's funnier to be the 'bitter, single gal' at times than the 'okey dokey, I'm okay with everything guy'. In other words, I don't think your blog 'personality' is directly indicative of the type of person you may be in the real world, it's just one sarcastic, dark humored facet of your total self.
But, uh, big props on using your ENTIRE name like a real G, Ayanna, lol.
I second that.
ReplyDeleteBEEF IV.... LMAO (BET series)
ReplyDeleteAyanna, I'd like to thank you for expressing your point of view of things, just I as I do.
ReplyDeletePlease note that most of these blogs are my light-hearted take on different issues. They should not considered a true indication of the scope of me (just as I would hope that you wouldn't want people label you as an angry woman by your responses).
With that being said, you cannot assume things about me simply by what I choose to put on this page. This blog is only meant to give one AN IDEA of my point of view on things.
In the future, I hope you continue to visit the page... thanks again for your comments.
....As I remember my grandmother's adage "everything that's good to you isn't good for you...."Yeah, something like that *smiles*.
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Perhaps the bigger issue here is the fact that people even "shop" for "the one". I find that when you go out looking for something you often find a lot of crap that you don't want or need but somehow end up stuck with. Maybe people should just get to know each other without the thought that this person could be my next man or woman in the back of their mind. If things evolve into a relationship then that's even better.
ReplyDeleteI must say, I am addicted. I never knew you had so much to say. I guess I never asked either.
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